Words of Affirmation
Apparently, if you want me to feel loved, sincere Words of Affirmation is what makes me feel special and loved. Followed by Quality Time and Physical Touch.
This is what I have learned from the book John and I have been reading together, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.
Before reading the book, I don’t know if I would have made the list in the order that the online quiz produced here to the left, but after reading the book, I think that it’s pretty close to true. In fact, I told John that after looking at the list the first time, I felt very greedy, as they all looked to be equally important to me. (Now this was his chance to back out, hehe).
He said, and we both agreed, that everything there had an element of importance, but the book helps you realize what works for YOU, and what works for your spouse.
Words of Affirmation:
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important, hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
The book mostly is geared for couples already married. John felt that at times, it goes a long way to say something rather practical and common sense that could have been written in fewer words. However, after reading the examples of marriages in near divorce, you can see how sometimes years into the marriage you can lose your way, and common sense approaches dissolves when anger and resentment take over. So perhaps the lengthy explanations and examples is a good thing.
